Why We Fight

In Why We Fight, relationship coach and couples therapist, Kim Polinder reveals the real reasons those familiar arguments keep returning, no matter how small the trigger seems. Polinder shows that most conflicts arent really about the dishes or chores, theyre about core wounds, attachment styles and negative self-beliefs that formed long before you entered any relationship.

Inspired by her years as a tech engineer, Polinder provides a systematic, root-cause approach, turning overwhelming feelings into a clear, step-by-step process to navigate arguments better. Through case studies, practical exercises and guided questions, youll learn to troubleshoot arguments in real time, regulate your emotions, communicate effectively and reframe old patterns. Along the way, youll discover not only how to improve your relationship, but also a deeper understanding of yourself and why you hurt the way you do.

If youre sick of feeling out of control as the same old fights keep bubbling up, Why We Fight provides a path to understanding the real reasons we argue and how to finally change them, before its too late.