Harriet Lerner

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Situándose en una perspectiva que abarca a la vez la condición de psicóloga y la de madre, la doctora Harriet Lerner ha escrito un libro inteligente y vigoroso, que pone el dedo en la llaga en lo que se refiere a los cambios que experimentan todas las mujeres cuando se ven obligadas a enfrentarse a la maternidad. El texto refiere una multitud de ejemplos, que van desde los casos mas divertidos a los mas dramaticos, y describe detalladamente todo cuanto ocurre cuando una pareja deja de serlo para convertirse en trio o incluso en cuarteto. La autora nos demuestra asi de que modo los niños nos enseñan inevitablemente a descubrir ciertos aspectos personales y de la pareja que, de otro modo, nunca hubieramos averiguado: nos necesitan para crecer, pero, asimismo, son los mejores maestros a la hora de impartirnos las mas importantes lecciones espirituales. Lo cierto es que las experiencias personales de Lerner le han enseñado las reglas fundamentales para ser madre: no esperar disponer de ningun control sobre las vidas de nuestros hijos, convencernos de que la mayor parte de los temores sobre lo que les pueda ocurrir seran siempre infundados y, en fin, ser conscientes de que nos amaran, a pesar de todos nuestros defectos, solo si nosotros somos capaces de hacer lo propio. Con el estilo penetrante, calido y diafano que la caracteriza, Lerner nos ofrece de esta manera un libro divertido y emocionante sobre uno de los temas fundamentales de la existencia.

La ansiedad, una de las tres emociones básicas que, según la conocida escritora Harriet Lerner, alimentan la infelicidad, puede estar acechando solapadamente bajo la superficie de nuestra vida diaria. Junto con el miedo y la verguenza, constituyen las tres emociones indeseables de nuestra vida, que pueden acompañarnos continuamente cuando surgen las dificultades. Mediante una serie de instructivas historias, la autora, con las miras puestas en que consigamos llevar una vida mas plena y satisfactoria, nos enseña a: · Superar el miedo escenico a hablar en publico · Mantenernos lucidos y tranquilos en un entorno laboral que provoca ansiedad · Controlar el miedo y la desesperacion ante todo tipo de adversidades · Conocer y valorar los beneficios del pensamiento positivo

With wit, wisdom and uncommon sense, Dr. Harriet Lerner gives readers the tools to solve problems and create joy, meaning and integrity in their relationships. Women will find Life Preservers (more than 40,000 copies sold in hardcover) to be an invaluable motivational guide that covers the landscape of work and creativity, anger and intimacy, friendship and marriage, children and parents, loss and betrayal, sexuality and health and much more.With new insights and a results-oriented approach, Dr. Lerner answers womens most frequently asked questions and offers the best advice for problems women face today: I always pick the wrong guys. Should I move in with him?I cant stand my boss. Should I leave my marriage? How can I recover from his affair? Is my fantasy abnormal? Is my therapy working? I miss my mother. I cant believe I was fired.

Following a unique format perfect for todays world, the renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives us just over 100 rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships.Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems ("He wont talk"/"She doesnt want sex") as well as modern ones (your partners relationship to technology.) Youll also learn how to: Calm things down and warm them up Talk straight and fight fair Listen well as a spiritual practice Connect with a distant partner Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren and difficult- laws Follow a 12-step program to overcome defensiveness Know how and when to draw the line Take back your marriage when things fall apart Marriage Rules is a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your couple relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction. If one person in a couple follows ten rules of his or her choice, it will generate a major, positive change. All thats required is a genuine wish for a better relationship and a willingness to practice.

“If you want to know why Harriet Lerner is one of my great heroes, Why Won’t You Apologize? is the answer. This book is a game changer.” —Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of the #1 New York Times bests

This book examines those relationships where intimacy is most challenged by too much distance, too much intensity, or simply too much pain. In clear, direct, and dramatic terms, Dr. Lerner illustrates how we can move differently in these key relationships-be they with a distant or unfaithful spouse, a depressed sister, a difficult mother, an alcoholic father, an uncommited lover, a dying parent, or a family member whom we have written off. And she teaches us about -the differences that make a difference-the changes we can make in one or two significant relationships that will affect our capacity for intimacy and selfhood over the long haul. Through vivid and poignant examples from case studies and stories from her own life, Dr. Lerner shows us how good relationships can thrive and endure and difficult ones can be healed, and she illuminates the specific steps that women can take toward a more solid self and a more intimate connectedness with others.

When The Dance of Deceptionwas published, Lerner discovered that women were not eager to identify with the subject. "Well, I dont do deception" was a common resonse.We all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on. The Dance of Deceptionunravels the ways (and whys) that women show the false and hide the real -- even to our own selves. We see how relationships are affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending and by brave -- but misguided -- efforts to tell the truth.Truth-telling is at the heart of what is most central in womens lives. It is at the foundation of authenticity and creativity, intimacy and joy. Yet in the name of "honesty", we can bludgeon each other. We can approach a difficult issue with such a poor sense of timing and tact that we can actually shut down the lines of communication rather than widening the path of truth-telling.Sometimes Lerners advice takes a surprising turn -- for example, when she asks us to engage in a bold act of pretending in order to discover something "more real"; or when she tells us not to parachute down on our family to bring up a "hot issue" without laying the necessary groundwork first.Whether the subject is affairs, family secrets, sexual faking or the challenge of "being oneself", Lerner helps us to discover, speak and live our own truths.

From the celebrated author of The Dance of Anger comes an extraordinary book about mothering and how it transforms us -- and all our relationships -- inside and out. Written from her dual perspective as a psychologist and a mother, Lerner brings us deeply personal tales that run the gamut from the hilarious to the heart-wrenching. From birth or adoption to the empty nest, The Mother Dance teaches the basic lessons of motherhood: that we are not in control of what happens to our children, that most of what we worry about doesnt happen, and that our children will love us with all our imperfections if we can do the same for them. Here is a gloriously witty and moving book about what it means to dance the mother dance.

The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships and personal growth. Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feeland certainly our anger is no exception."Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change with clear communication skills.For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.For decades, this groundbreaking guide to emotional intelligence has provided the essential tools to build stronger relationships and stop destructive cycles:Relationship Patterns: Understand and change the circular dances that keep you stuck, including the common pursuer-distancer dynamic that creates conflict in couples. Effective Communication: Learn to express your anger and needs clearly and constructively, without blaming others or silencing yourself. Family Dynamics: Get to the root of unresolved issues with your family of origin so they stop fueling conflicts in your current relationships. Setting Boundaries: Reclaim your sense of self by learning to say "no" to unfair circumstances and stop the "de-selfing" that leads to resentment.

Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express ones "authentic voice" in intimate relationships.The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives.