Talk Before You Marry

Most couples can talk for hours about the wedding. Far fewer can talk honestly about money, sex, family, children, faith, roles, past relationships and what happens when they disagree.

Talk Before You Marry is a practical Christian premarital guide and workbook for engaged couples who want to build their marriage on honest conversation, not on assumptions.

Drawing on more than twenty years of pastoral ministry across ten countries, Pastor Richmond Kobe shows couples why silence can feel like peace, and how to build a relationship where telling the truth is safe.

Inside you will learn how to:

Recognise the six patterns that keep couples from difficult conversations Agree on rules for conflict before you need them Tell the difference between a preference, a conviction and a deal-breaker Raise a hard subject without turning it into an attack Listen without becoming defensive Walk through the nine "rooms" every marriage must enter: money, sex, family and boundaries, children, faith and church, roles, past relationships, what you are marrying into, and conflict itself

Each chapter includes a guided exercise, with private work done alone and shared conversations done together. A Practical Toolkit adds a fourteen-week route, conversation records, budget and responsibility sheets, a readiness review, a weekly check-in and Scripture for reflection.

Written for engaged couples, couples deciding whether to marry, married couples who want to revisit these conversations, and pastors who lead premarital sessions.

The goal was never to become a couple who agrees about everything. It is to become a couple who can tell each other the truth and still be safe.