REPARENTING YOURSELF

You were fed, clothed and often loved. So why do you still feel like you are waiting for a parent to understand you, and why do you flinch at your own needs? If your parents were warm in places but emotionally unavailable, self-centered, rigid or easily overwhelmed, the gaps they left can follow you into adult life without ever having a name. Reparenting Yourself is a compassionate, practical guide for adults who grew up with emotionally immature parents. It does not blame, and it does not ask you to choose between loving your family and caring for yourself. Instead it helps you see what was missing, recognize the pattern you grew up with, and build a ten-minute-a-day routine of comforting, guiding and encouraging yourself the way a steady parent would. Unlike books about full estrangement, abusive parents or one parents wound, this guide is for the in-between family: the one that is not a disaster and not a safe place either. It stays even-handed toward everyone involved, and it gives you words for the moments that actually test you: the phone call, the visit, the holiday table. Inside, youll learn: This is a book for slow, steady change, not a quick fix.